Adventures in the Lone Star State

Etiquette and Mormons — Does it exist?

Mormons don’t seem to always know proper etiquette. Or maybe it’s just me. However, this past weekend, I had the opportunity to attend a concert sponsored by O.C. Tanner and the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. It was great to hear the Mormon Tabernacle Choir accompanied by the Utah Symphony (with special guests, Ronan Tynan and Leahy). The concert was wonderful and I enjoyed it very much. However, I don’t believe that it was worthy of four standing ovations. This actually surprised me. I’ve been to several concerts held at the Conference Center in Salt Lake City and many other concerts, operas, ballets, etc. held in the DeJong Concert Hall at BYU. Normally, there’s just one standing ovation at the end (and I still don’t agree with this). But four?!?! They were good, but they weren’t that good. I don’t know why Mormons have to take away the special meaning of a standing ovation. I guess the same would apply to encores. This one actually applies outside of the Mormon culture, so I won’t press the issue here.

Also, at weddings, why is it that many LDS people choose not to dress up? They show up in shorts, jeans, wear tennis shoes, etc. People, you weren’t invited to go to the beach. You were graciously invited to a wedding. Show some respect to the bride and groom and dress appropriately (slacks, dress shirt, and tie unless otherwise specified). Also, when people pay money for a DJ, be courteous and dance for some time (even if it’s not for a long time). There’s nothing worse than having a dance floor with three people on it. Nobody likes it.

October 24th, 2005 at 9:07 am

2 Responses to “Etiquette and Mormons — Does it exist?”

  1. Anonymous Says:

    You think that business casual (ie. sans tie) is inappropriate for a wedding reception? I’d have to disagree. As long as effort has been made to wear the dress shirt and slacks, I think that’s good enough. We wear tie’s enough I think, and besides, it’s fashionable these days to go with a big collar and no tie…I guess…

    But yeah, I’d have to agree. A surprising amount of LDS people don’t dress up for weddings. I think that it may have something to do with the fact that in Utah, there is almost always a wedding to attend. Maybe people just don’t own enough clothes. Not saying that it’s an excuse people! I say, go buy some new clothes, get some deoderant, and make an effort to look nice and show some respect!

  2. Fernando Says:

    Three things:
    1) please don’t post as an anonymous user. You can still enter your name if you’re registered with

    2) As for the business casual comment, I will stick with what I said previously. Just because there is a trend to go w/o a tie to work doesn’t mean that I agree we should take extend that to weddings. I won’t say it’s inappropriate to go dressed in business casual, but I will say that I think it’s more appropriate to go with a tie.

    3) The comment about weddings doesn’t just apply to Utah. It’s a problem everywhere.

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